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I still don’t understand.
If I’ve never been interested in a romantic relation with another person, normally that could be considered aromantic. However, I’m only 19, that can change with time.

I do find stereotypical male bodies and features aesthetically attractive, or pleasing to admire. But this doesn’t mean that I wish to be in a physical relationship with any, and am lightly repulsed at the idea of it. Stereotypical male-to-male intercourse itself is absolutely disgusting.

I don’t find stereotypical feminine or female bodies or features attractive either, and do not wish to be in a physical relationship with a woman. Stereotypical female-to-male intercourse repulses me as well. I really don’t think I should label myself at this point, but I’ve done it in the past to make it easier on people. I’m certainly not heterosexual in any fashion; the first paragraph pushes that synopsis closer to homosexuality. Despite not really being sexual.

On principle, I really don’t like being referred to with any male-geared traits, as the assumptions that come with them are rarely accurate. Most stereotypically male traits don’t exactly align to my behaviors, thinking patterns, or character. I never mentioned this to anyone in person, though. An issue in its own right.

The same applies to feminine traits as well. At one point, I wondered if I was “genderfluid” since I had the same reaction to any pronoun or gender stereotype people threw at me. But, I didn’t take the time to realise that those reactions are not of belonging, but of rejection. Not everything has to be put in a category of “masculine” or “feminine”. If a person wants to condense human characteristics up into two boxes, why is it my fault when my characteristics are never consistent with a standard I never agreed to adhere to?

I wish I could just be a human. Medically and biologically, I was born as and indeed am male. That’s never been a debate. I am of the male sex.

I don’t think I go through gender dysphoria for the most part, though people’s gender stereotypes can fuel a similar feeling. Being perceived as the strong or brutes, or inherent heads of the household / management worthy, either fully stoic or having short tempers. Interested in sports, cars, relationships, insects, fights, etc. Or, people asking if I find a passing woman attractive. How I can “stay sane with all of these ten out of tens” working with me.
I still hate hearing that sentence from the edges of my memory.
Why I didn’t agree to go out with a girl I was close with back in… seventh grade, declining due my lack of attraction. She was certainly romantically interested, but I didn’t want any implications to arise even if I went as a friend.
How “oh, you’re a guy, you wouldn’t understand” even exists as a phrase. I’m aware that this isn’t my fault at this point, but it just feels alienating when people are reluctant to discuss stuff on the basis of my perceived gender.

Singular they. Used to refer to a person of an unknown/neutral gender. For example, “Someone was asking for you, and I couldn’t see their face, but they really wanted to know if you were available.”

It’s a gender neutral pronoun, nothing more. It’s a simple way to avoid labels.
To me, this is a non-issue, something that requires no extra attention. To others, explaining how this is grammatically accurate and has been for centuries is what people are often unable to wrap their head around.
And largely, it doesn’t change anything in reality. I’ve been the same human in the same body for my entire life. Outer perceptions don’t change that. And I don’t want people to think that pronouns will, either. Hence, I don’t feel the need to necessarily correct someone if they use any kind of pronouns to refer to me. Just as long as they’re consistent, because there’s no need for confusion while just trying to communicate.

I don’t communicate my pronoun usage at all, since I am concerned that the other party would then see me as a person they need a blueprint to be around. I look like a boy, and am genetically male, so I’m not going to fault someone for using those. The issue with using the incorrect pronouns is often the assumptions and intent that came with it. Even with cisgender individuals, using the wrong pronouns will get them to question why those pronouns were used. It’s no different here. If you were Obama, and someone consistently called you a “she” while talking about you, wouldn’t you immediately question why?

They should only be faulted if they intentionally try to cause a conflict and use the incorrect ones to get a reaction out of someone else.

Gender was derived from observations and segregations of physical sexual assignments, namely male or female sexes. Sex, gender, and sexual orientation are all wholly separate aspects of a person.
Yet, despite this, there are fundamental differences in both sexes on a macro level. The male gender is associated with aggression, physical strength, and leadership roles due to biological and hormonal catalysts for this behavior existing in the corresponding sex. Historically, this led to males being objectively better equipped fits for related roles, and over time, these competencies became stronger as they continued to be utilised. A natural example of evolution.
A female in marriage traditionally takes the male’s last name, but not the other way around. Unlike wed males, who stay as a mister, a female in marriage becomes a mistress (Mrs.) from former status of “miss”, implying that their value or status changes depending on if they have a token husband or not.
There are entire languages which are founded on gendered grammar, where nouns are gendered based on a degree of masculinity or femininity of that noun. But… I must ask the Spanish language how a computer (computadora) is feminine.

The intersex people as well. Those with Swyer syndrome, for example, have a conflicting phenotype according to the person’s genotype. A genetic makeup for a male, yet possesses female genitalia and general appearance and will not undergo puberty throughout adulthood until hormone therapy is performed. They also can’t have biological children, as they are sterile. Similar goes for those with Klinefelter‘s syndrome.

Based on these premises, the emphasis on gender is a construct based upon the physical characteristics of each sex. There was nothing wrong with this for a time, as it was necessary to keep the human race moving along. However, the foundation of this construct is starting to lose relevance as society progresses and as all sexes perform more and more tasks at equally competent levels. In other words, gender is an increasingly dated classification system largely based on the nature of being of the male or female sex. Those expectations and roles are becoming increasingly outdated in this current society. Gender itself is nearing obsolescence. Many of the gender roles that are currently being observed, only continue to do so, due to people feeling as if they need to conform to them as per formality, or what’s expected of them – an inherently societal issue. The influence of biological factors favoring certain sexes over others still exists, albeit, to a lesser degree than it has been historically.
Dysphoria happens for many people due to their unintentional noncompliance, or feeling as if they don’t fit in with their gender, especially with their sexual assignment and the societal expectations which come along with it. People who make strong assumptions, such as choosing who to befriend, to vent to, talk to, or trust, based on something as arbitrary as gender has major effects to people suffering from dysphoria. And I consider myself without a gender, aka nonbinary, as I simply am not going to worry about conforming to any specific societal blueprint when it comes to gender expression.

As an aside, I fail to see the purpose gendered pronouns play. It would reduce many social issues if everyone was referred to as “they”, or directly by their actual name. This is a feature in other languages, like Chinese, which is used by more people than English. If this language feature would cause communication issues, this wouldn’t be the case. Ambiguity is resolved by using the proper noun or name, if context doesn’t properly define it. It isn’t an issue in languages like Chinese, where this is exactly how the spoken language works.

Many of these problems could be averted if society moves towards a gender-neutral makeup, instead of inventing new genders (aka prejudicial boxes) for simple personality traits. While not fully eliminated, dysphoria could be lessened from the result of a lesser impact on gender in day-to-day life. People wouldn’t feel out of place due to these baseless and semi-arbitrary assumptions about one’s character. Even the term “feminist” is terrible, as it implies a catering more towards females and less towards humanity itself, despite the actual goal of the movement. You don’t demand equality for two different subjects while going out of your way to highlight that there is a difference between those subjects. You stop highlighting the differences if you want to bring attention away from them, or acknowledge them on an equal field.

Unless you are tasked with identifying a person or doing anything medical related, refer to a person as “man”, not “[insert race here] man”. It’s patronising and counterintuitive, when someone gets praise for a mundane achievement just because there is pigment [or lack thereof] present in their skin.
“Oh, that’s impressive… for a [insert race here] guy.” “We are so proud that we have had 50 [insert race here] graduates this year!”
What does that achieve? Calling attention to facts like these undermines the concept of “equality”; it is implying that the achievement is exemplary, compared to the rest of the race. Which would be… inherently racist.

There is no “black” community, there is no “LGBT” community. There are individual people who are dark skinned and people who are not heterosexual/cisgender, however. There are also people of these denominations who create separate communities based on their identity who try to “represent” an entire group of people, but there is no overarching community just because many different people share similar traits. I never once like being lumped into some community as if I know of, or have common interests in mind with other random people.